For many people, dating can feel like one of the most challenging things in the entire world, to put it bluntly.
Modern-day technology has changed the game. The explosion ofdating apps, fromTindereteHarmony,offer seemingly endless options. But with this new convenience comes the stress ofcreating the perfect online dating profile, the tricky game of messaging a person you’ve never met, and a whole host of other complex issues. And, as if dating wasn’t hard enough already, the single people of the world now have to do it with the added stress of safely navigating a global pandemic.
But you are not alone! The dating world is challenging … which is why a bunch of helpful dating resources exist. It’s totally OK to seek out help from experts, books, advice columns, apps, podcasts, and more.
It can be hard to sort through all the bad dating advice out there and find the good stuff that can actually help you navigate your way to a successful relationship. That’s why we’ve compiled this list outlining 10 ways to find the best dating, sex, and relationship advice.
1. Therapy and dating advice apps
If you’re searching for some professional advice, or just looking for someone to open up to, consider using a therapy or dating advice app.
Mashable has researchedseven of the best therapy appsavailable for download, which includeTalkspaceet7 Cups. Other apps, likeRelish,ReGain, etMindsail,offer dating and relationship-focused coaching and counseling.
2. Online sex ed resources
Emotional intimacy is one thing, but for many people physically intimacy with a new person is daunting. It’s a big part of any romantic relationship, but it’s not something everyone has a lot of experience in. That’s why it’s important to have trusted sex ed resources on hand. Sex advice is especially beneficial for young people who might not feel comfortable asking others for help.
3. Advice columns
Sometimes the best dating advice comes from asking a seasoned advice-giver about your specific situation. Online columns are perfect for this approach. You can submit your own questions in hopes of receiving a response; you can also learn a lot just by reading responses to other people.
There are a bunch of great general and dating-specific advice columns out there. Here are a few to get you started.
4. Expert-run websites
Some people prefer a more expansive selection of resources that are specifically focused on the dating game. That’s where expert-run websites come in handy.
Often, individual therapists, authors, speakers, and or life/relationship coaches — such asGigi Engel,Esther Perel, etHayley Quinn— have websites that not only keep you up-to-date on their work, but also include online resources and blogs for you to check out.Psychology Todayhas a “Dating and Mating” category that focuses on “the social psychology of attraction and romantic relationships.”
You can also browse your favorite dating site or dating app for answers to your burning questions. Some apps,like Hinge, offer ideas on ways to make your online dating experience more enjoyable and also to make your dating profile more effective.
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5. Texting services for teens
As part ofMashable’s Sex Ed 2.0 series, we also looked into helpful digital tools that teens can use to ask sex ed questions or seek guidance related to serious relationship topics, such as unplanned pregnancies. Here are three noteworthy services.
:A team of trained health educators are available online and via textfrom morning to nightto advise on questions related to pregnancy, birth control, abortion, sex, health and wellness, and sexually transmitted infections.
: This nonprofit organization works to help minors in Texas answer questions about how to access birth control or have an abortion. Jane’s Due Process also provides free attorneys to young people who need assistance with the abortion process.
: If you’re 13 or older, you can also reach out toPlanned Parenthood’s chatbot, Roo,to privately ask questions about bodies, sex, et
relationships. Roo is available 24/7 to answer everything from “How do I tell someone I like them?” to “Does it hurt to have sex for the first time?” and more.
6. YouTube videos
If there’s an expert that you particularly admire, such as Esther Perel, try searching YouTube for some helpful videos. Perel, for example, hasher own YouTube channelwhere she holds Q&A sessions, gives relationship advice, and more. But there are also a variety of videos, including severalTED Talks, that feature her speaking on the site.
YouTube is full of relationship advice if you search for it. Here are a few suggestions.
Anna Akana: YouTuber, actress, comedian, and author Anna Akana has a fun channel that she uses to share relationship advice. She’s made videos to address everything fromsextingetbad relationship behaviorstodating profilesand more.
Matthew Hussey: You may know Hussey as a dating coach, the author ofGet the Guy, or a matchmaker from NBC’s 2013 seriesReady for Love,but Hussey also has a YouTube channel where he regularly uploads videos full of tips and advice on dating, communicating, and more.
AMAZE: This animated YouTube series was created to answer questions from teens and help them learn about relationships and sex ed.
lacigreen: Online sex educator (and author ofSex Plus) Laci Green’s YouTube channel is here to break down and talk you through everything from masturbating and orgasms, to consent, genders, and more. Though Green announced a break from YouTube a few months ago, her videos remain and are a great starting point for anyone who wants to learn.
7. Dating advice podcasts
Reading advice columns or talking to other people about your personal life isn’t for everyone. If you prefer to sit back and listen to other people discuss their own experiences, give dating-related podcasts a try. Here are a few suggestions to get you started:
8. Dating and relationship books
If you’d rather learn about online dating, sex, and how to have a better relationshipoffline, allow the internet to steer you in the direction of some helpful books on those topics. Here are some online suggestions for the best offline reading material. And remember, you can always dig through lists, likeAmazon’s Dating Best Sellers, for additional guidance.
Why Men Love Bitchesby Sherry Argov
Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sexby Michael Todd
Meeting Your Half-Orange by Amy Spencer
How to Date Men When You Hate Menby Blythe Roberson
Ask a Queer Chick: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life for Girls Who Dig Girlsby Lindsay King-Miller
9. Sex, necessitudo, and dating advice subreddits
If you’re not looking for advice from actual experts, Reddit may be the perfect place for you. There are a bunch of subreddits — such asr/relationship_advice,r/relationships,r/dating_advice,r/dating,r/sex, etr/BreakUps—where you can converse with other Reddit users and share personal experiences or questions you have related to dating, sex, and relationships.
There are also more general advice subreddits liker/Advice,r/AskReddit,r/CasualConversationetr/TooAfraidToAskwhere you can go to ask any questions you have. If you’re looking to discuss a specific topic that isn’t listed here, you can always search the platform,browse the directory, or hop intor/findaredditto ask for guidance.
10. A few unlikely sources
If you ever feel like you’ve reached complete dating scene overload and need to take a step back and regroup, try checking out some lighthearted, unlikely sources of wisdom.
See what astrology apps likeCo-Starhave to say about your love life; binge some dating-related TikToks; watch movies or TV shows that focus heavily on dating; search for someunqualified celebrity advice; or check outr/AmItheAssholeto focus on other people’s relationships and learn whatnotto do.
Whether you’re a single person who wants to enrich your dating life, someone looking to turn a first date into a second date or you’re a couple who fell in love at first sight and now need to turn it into a long-lasting and healthy relationship, there’s no shame in asking for help. Love takes some serious effort to maintain, and while these resources can go a long way, it’s important to take time for yourself, too, and remember not to stress. Good luck out there, everyone.